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What If This Year Is Not About Doing More, But Becoming Better?

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By Dickson Tumuramye Every beginning of a year comes with noise. Planners sell out, club or association memberships surge, and timelines overflow with bold declarations of what people intend to achieve. Everyone seems to be in a hurry to announce what they will accomplish by the end of 2026. New businesses will be launched, new qualifications pursued, new income targets set, savings and investment culture started, and new adjustments made. Ambition is not the problem. Growth is necessary. Progress matters. Yet beneath the noise lies a quieter, more demanding question that few pause to ask: Who am I becoming as I pursue all these things? The Culture of Doing Without Becoming We live in a society that celebrates output more than character, speed more than depth, and visibility more than substance. We applaud people who do more, achieve more, and acquire more, even when they are exhausted, emotionally disconnected, spiritually depleted, or quietly breaking inside. Many are busy bu...
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Beyond Winning and Losing: The Nation Is Bigger Than Politics

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By Dickson Tumuramye Last week, our country exercised one of the most important civic duties in a democracy, the right to vote. The process concluded peacefully, the results were declared, and the nation has moved forward. For parents, teachers, and stakeholders, however, this moment goes far beyond ballots and results. It is a living classroom. Elections may end in a day, but the lessons children draw from adult behavior last a lifetime. Learning is not limited to classrooms alone. It is formed through observation, conversation, and daily experience. In moments such as these, children and young people learn not from what is written in textbooks, what they watch on television, or what they observe on social media, but from how we respond to national events, especially when emotions are high and opinions differ. Much of civic education happens outside formal classrooms. It takes place at home, in hostels, in staff rooms, and on social media feeds. After elections, our children lis...
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Behind the Screen: How Online Predators Trap Your Children

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By Dickson Tumuramye Many of our children today live in a world where a smartphone, tablet, or laptop is always within reach. They are exploring social media, chatting with strangers in online games, scrolling through TikTok, joining WhatsApp groups, and clicking on pop-ups without thinking twice. While this digital exposure can be good for learning and creativity, it has also created a silent door through which online predators access our children. Many young people fall into traps without even realizing they are being targeted, and by the time parents notice, their emotional, psychological, or even physical safety has already been compromised. How Predators Disguise Themselves Online Predators rarely appear as dangerous individuals. They enter children’s online spaces pretending to be friendly, helpful, or “cool.” In Uganda, many of these interactions happen on platforms like TikTok, Instagram, online gaming chat rooms, and even basic WhatsApp groups. A predator may use a you...
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Challenge Your Adult Children to Think Outside the Box

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By Dickson Tumuramye Many parents invest so much in raising children that we often struggle to know when to step back. We sacrifice, guide, protect, and provide. Yet one of the greatest gifts we can give our children, especially when they transition into adulthood, is the gift of independence. Today, many families are grappling with adult sons and daughters who are working, earning, and even married, but still fully dependent on their parents for survival. If we do not challenge them to think outside the box, we risk raising adults who remain emotionally, financially, and mentally dependent long into their thirties and forties. It is difficult, but necessary, to let our adult children struggle a bit, think critically, solve problems, and learn to stand on their own. Stop Spoon-Feeding Your Adult Children Spoon-feeding does not stop at childhood. Many adults remain dependent because their parents never allow them to feel the weight of responsibility. A young man may be earning a...
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Why Children Hide Their True Feelings From Their Parents

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    By Dickson Tumuramye The school holiday is now underway, and some of our candidate children have already returned home, while others will join them soon, whether in primary, high school, or higher institutions of learning. As they grow, children are far more sensitive than we often realize. They think deeply, feel deeply, and observe quietly. Yet many of them rarely speak openly about what is hurting them. They smile, laugh, and play, and they may portray a picture as if everything is moving on well, even when their hearts are troubled. The truth is that many children hide their real feelings, not because they want to deceive their parents, but because they do not know how to communicate their inner world. The silent world of children may not be easily detected until they share their story, you take an interest in making observations, or you are keen on any changes. I share with you some of the reasons why our children, regardless of their age and time, may hide th...
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Who Sets the Rules in Your Home? Rethinking the Entitlement Generation

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By Dickson Tumuramye There was a time when the word of a parent was final. It wasn’t necessarily a  dictatorship, but rather a culture built on respect, boundaries, and structure. When your father said “no,” you understood it was “no.” When your mother gave a directive, you knew questioning it was not an option. It wasn’t fear — it was honour, and perhaps a little dose of holy reverence. The Shift: Children Now Dictate the Rules But today, things seem to have changed drastically. We are living in an era where children are the ones setting the pace for parents. Rules are being questioned, boundaries are being redrawn by toddlers and teens, and sadly, many parents are giving in, sometimes even applauding this new boldness in the name of modern parenting. Emotional Blackmail It is common to hear children say, “You don’t love me,” simply because you denied them a phone, restricted screen time, or asked them to wash dishes. Others say things like, “You’re mistreating me,” or...
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Involve Your Children in Budgeting for School Needs

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By Dickson Tumuramye Do you ever involve your children in the budgeting process for their school, personal, and family requirements? As we prepare to take our children back to school for the third term, many parents are also starting the shopping marathon. The usual routine is that children present their school requirements, sometimes with an extra list of personal wants. The atmosphere in many homes is a mix of pressure, anxiety, and anticipation. Some parents happily shop together with their children, while others prefer to do it on their behalf. This back-to-school period is always a financial balancing act. On one hand, schools legitimately require many items to ensure a smooth learning experience. On the other hand, some children believe their parents have an unlimited supply of money. They present lists that stretch far beyond what is affordable, with little understanding of the financial sacrifices involved. This creates a sense of entitlement that can weigh heavily on p...
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