Positive Parenting

By Dickson Tumuramye The former President of South Africa, Nelson Mandela once said that the true character of a society is revealed in how it treats its children. Child abuse comes in so many ways in our homes. The main four types of abuse are physical, emotional, neglect, and sexual abuse. Each of these types manifests itself in different forms in any home at any time and each has devastating consequences in the life of a child. The most common abuse in our homes is the use of harsh words against children. There are people who speak into the lives of children in the name of correcting them. The words used instead break their hearts though they may never show them to you. Some parents use threats, abuse, mockery, and belittling, spitting on a child among others. Such words humiliate, degrade, and cause low self-esteem, loss of self-confidence, and emotional stress. Some children are silenced or not allowed to talk about anything in their homes. They are ridiculed when they try to

By Dickson Tumuramye It is important for anyone intending to get married to go through premarital counseling with his/her fiancéé/fiancé. There are churches or preachers who don’t take premarital counseling as a vital aspect of preparing these two friends to engage  in a marriage relationship. Some churches encourage one year or not less than six months of premarital counseling sessions where they take the affianced through many topics. They empower them with soft skills which are the strong foundations of marriage and how to build a healthy and lasting relationship. Premarital counseling provides very valuable tools and insights that a couple can use to navigate through life challenges and focus on building a blissful marriage. There are many sessions covering marriage matters that either the groom and the bride, the church, or parents should never take for granted. The issues handled in these sessions may never be taught anywhere in school. These sessions are very practical and

By Dickson Tumuramye I had a chat with my friend whose daughter recently finished senior four and the son completed primary seven. He was so excited about it that he was looking forward to his children resting from reading and just being at home relaxing. That comment attracted my attention as he prefers them to stay at home enjoying their rest from all the pressure. I asked him about other plans he had for his children during the period they are staying at home which is closer to three months. I assure you there is no plan apart from waiting for results and the rest will follow. It is good to know that during this vacation you can achieve a lot for your children than keeping them at home watching TV, being on social media, and enjoying meals prepared meals by others. You can apply these skills to empower your child with various skills. Plan together Ask your children how they intend to utilize their holiday. That is the starting point to listen to their ideas and plan to