Positive Parenting

By Dickson Tumuramye Public speaking is a vital skill that everyone should master. In this digital generation, you can’t afford to raise a child who can’t ably express him/herself. Gone are the days when such skills were not important. But these days with a lot of exposure, social media engagements, and virtual conferences, a generation where schools no longer select leaders but children campaign even to be a class monitors, schools and churches have a lot of activities that involve them, among others, your child/ren need to be on top of the game. Public speaking is not only a challenge for children but also for adults. There are some old people that even giving a prayer in a small meeting is a hassle. Public speaking promotes skills like communication, presentation, self-confidence, leadership, self-esteem, negotiation, networking, and interpersonal and reduces the chances of your child being bullied by other children/adults. It has now become a career for some people and they e

By Dickson Tumuramye Every marriage prospers well when a couple lives together without anything separating them at any moment. But certain circumstances may be beyond their control and they end up staying apart for some time. The common reason for this may be a far way job, career advancement, and health issues, among others. Whatever the reason for it, it leaves one feeling lonely and physically missing the partner. It can be challenging if a couple is not in touch. Out of this, some may end up in infidelity, as we have heard about such circumstances happening. But if well managed, the marriage relationship may remain flourishing. One of my friends experiencing it told me that long-distance  marriages are indeed a very great challenge for both  spous es. This creates a gap that may never be easy to fill. It affects your relationship and that of the children if you have any.  She added that with e ach passing day; the gap grows bigger.  It also affects  a great deal  of  your sexual li

 By Dickson Tumuramye It is so common to start a conversation about another person in the presence of your children. This can even be a phone rumor/gossip that your children are hearing. It is worse when this is about your spouse or relative. You go on and undress your partner when children are listening to how your husband/wife has become useless, stupid, irresponsible, how you fight every day, and how he is very mean, among other words. You don’t care that children are paying attention, not bothered about what the information they are consuming and how it affects them.  Doing it in their hearing about that person they know affects them and creates much bitterness, anger, hatred, and suspicion, and leaves children in jeopardy. You have instilled a spirit of all the above and they live with a different picture of that person, including losing trust in him/her. Moreover, all you are saying may be hearsay; when the truth is later revealed that it was false, your children will never get t

By Dickson Tumuramye Every parent's desire is to see his/her child grow into a successful man/woman. We all wish to be wealthy as well as our children. This is a reason why we work so hard to save and invest for the future. But few parents become intentional in teaching their children how to make and manage money from childhood. We only focus on academic excellence and we think that if children are exposed to money when young, they will be spoilt. Some young children learn how to count money in class, yet we have money in our pockets daily. We don’t think it is so important to help a child distinguish the different physical currencies. We only wait when they are old. We can start this practice when every child is very young and keep teaching them until they are totally financially independent. It all starts with teaching them to know the value of money and how we make money. Let them know that money is earned not given freely. Even a cash gift is money earned for a reason. A person