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Discipline is not a choice

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  By Dickson Tumuramye Oftentimes, our children can choose to be very stubborn or disobedient, and as a parent, you feel there is nothing more you can do for this child.  You have possibly gone the extra mile to press this child to be compliant and respectful but nothing seems to change. Other children behave like kings or bosses before their parents. What they want is what a parent will do. A parent now dances to the tunes of the child. Some parents think they should not exasperate their children and, therefore, they give them all the freedom to do as they please. They handle them like glass. It is now the child who advances the rules and conditions that a parent in this case must follow or else the child throws tantrums. Before you know it, such a child grows up with a lot of self-entitlement and by the time you try to ‘tame’ them, it is too late. As they say, charity begins at home. This child too needs to be trained well to be disciplined. Have you ever visited homes where a parent

Make use of the school holidays well

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By Dickson Tumuramye Holidays are here and we thank God that our children are back from school. Congratulations to the candidates who sat their mocks. This is a short holiday almost three weeks but there are some children like candidates who may not even have this holiday because schools want to continue teaching. Due to competition in schools, children study throughout and they are pumped with a lot of reading to ensure they all pass well. Sometimes there is too much pressure some children are undergoing. Make sure to prioritize spending time with your children at home. Consider taking some time off work to ensure you have quality and sufficient time with them. It's important to note that some parents who work full-time may struggle to find time for their children. Remember, the time you fail to create now may result in you having to spend time at a rehabilitation center in the future. Additionally, you may end up spending more money than necessary if you neglect to

Talk to children about death

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By Dickson Tumuramye I listened to a lady's account of being a single mother after her husband's untimely death. Her story resonated with me, highlighting the profound impact of grief.  It made me reflect on how older individuals who comprehend life questions like why, what, when, where, and how may still struggle with loss. But what about young children who cannot fully grasp death? In this contemplative state, my mind wandered back to my own personal experience over fifteen years ago, when I lost my mother shortly after completing my university studies. Even to this day, it sometimes feels as though it were all a surreal dream.  Yet, the uncertainty of whether I will ever have the opportunity to reunite with her lingers in my thoughts. The profound impact of death or other tragic events can leave individuals in a state of self-denial, struggling to come to terms with the irrevocable loss of a beloved parent. In light of these reflections, it becomes essential to consider how