Positive Parenting

  By Dickson Tumuramye Many parents want their children to have a better life than they had during their early years. They provide good schools, comfortable homes, reliable transport, meals, clothing, and protection from hardship. These are meaningful expressions of care. But provision can quietly become overprotection. A parent may begin answering every call, explaining every mistake, replacing every lost item, and negotiating away every consequence. Before long, the child is surrounded by support but has little experience managing life independently. That is where good parenting can become counterproductive. Comfort is not the same as preparation Children do not become capable simply because they are loved, educated or well provided for. They become capable through practice. They need opportunities to organise their belongings, complete tasks, manage time, handle money, solve ordinary problems and recover from mistakes. If adults constantly step in, children may grow accu...

By Dickson Tumuramye For many families, school holidays are a precious opportunity to have children back home. Parents get to hear their stories, share meals, play together, and reconnect after a demanding term. Yes, having children at home can sometimes be stressful, especially for working parents. But that does not make the holiday unnecessary. A school holiday is part of a child’s education, not a wasted period. Yet across Uganda, some schools continue teaching, coaching and organising academic programmes during holidays, particularly for upper classes and candidates. This practice must stop. Some schools began their holidays last week, while the current school term officially ends on August 21. A holiday is not a luxury Children need time away from classrooms to rest physically, mentally, and emotionally. They need unstructured play, family interaction, sleep, recreation, chores and opportunities to explore interests outside textbooks. When every holiday becomes another classroom, ...

By Dickson Tumuramye Recently, I heard a woman share an experience that left me thinking deeply about parenting perceptions. She had married into a family from a different culture. In her home, kneeling was compulsory as a sign of respect. However, when she got married, her new family told her not to worry because that was not part of their culture. Years later, as her daughters grew older, she began teaching them some of the customs she had learnt while growing up. Her reason was simple yet profound: “I do not know where my daughters will get married.” She realised that parenting was no longer about preparing children only for the family they were born into, but also for the families, communities and cultures they might one day join. Her story raises a question every parent should ask: Will my parenting still make sense twenty years from now? The world has changed Many of us are raising children the way we were raised. While our parents did their best, today's world is r...

25.07.2026 threatened to be a good day. For the better part of it, it was. My dear cousins, Davis and Annet, came by to see my ailing mother, and it was an emotive yet sweet time. If I have ever seen love personified, it was in the version shared between my mother and Aunt Hope, whom she fondly called Muramukazi—that is, sister-in-law. For more than ten years now, my mother's health has been a roller coaster. She always told Aunt Hope that she was at peace knowing that if she went to be with the Lord, Aunt Hope would be by my side—not only to comfort me, but also to eulogize her. That, however, was not God's script. A year ago, Aunt Hope departed from this world. Perhaps one day we will recover from that loss. For now, we continue to bandage the wounds it caused. Davis mentioned that I looked stressed. I could not deny it. I told him it was true; the past month had been one of the hardest seasons of my life. Every day felt like the ugly claws of death were menacingly taunting m...

By Dickson Tumuramye The issue of drug and substance use is becoming increasingly prevalent in our society, especially in schools and universities. Many children are involved in drug use, yet parents often remain unaware of what is happening in their lives. A university student once confided in me that he was struggling with alcohol addiction and was working hard to overcome it. Despite numerous attempts, he failed time and again. What pained him the most was that his parents had no idea about his struggles. Whenever he returned home for holidays, he abstained from drinking entirely, and his parents knew him only as their well-behaved, responsible son. Don’t Give Up Some parents have recognized that their children are grappling with substance abuse and have taken various measures to support them. Some have experienced only marginal progress, while others have witnessed encouraging changes. Sadly, some have lost all hope and feel inclined to give up. Yet, I consistently urge paren...

By Dickson Tumuramye Success is often measured by what we achieve in life. A good job, a thriving business, a beautiful home, and the ability to provide for our families are all admirable accomplishments. In Uganda today, many parents work tirelessly to ensure their children enjoy opportunities they never had. Yet, despite these sacrifices, it is not uncommon to find some successful parents struggling with children who are undisciplined, irresponsible, entitled, or unable to navigate life's challenges effectively. This reality raises an important question: Why do some successful parents raise struggling children? Success here may be reflected in educational attainment, career advancement, financial stability, leadership positions, or entrepreneurial achievement, etc, where a family lives a moderate life and has what is adequate to meet more than the basic needs. Success Vs Effective Parenting Many parents assume that success in one area of life automatically leads to succes...