Positive Parenting

By Dickson Tumuramye In the past centuries, parenting was not as complicated as it is now in the 21st Century. Before, all children were looked at as community children, and there was collective responsibility for raising children. Families used to live in an extended setting compared to today’s unitary/individualised setting.   In some families, parents had time to sit with their children at a round table or fireplace, and they would share stories, riddles, songs, etc. This not only helped children to learn how to express themselves, but also meant families would have enough time to be together and discuss family issues, and parents would pass on any information that seemed crucial to their children. In doing so, parents were able to identify with their children and establish a relationship with them. Nowadays, the process of raising children is completely changing. A lot is happening in families as parenting is being substituted with other things. Parents are so busy wi...

By Dickson Tumuramye We thank God for how far He has brought our children to this level when they are finishing their Primary Seven, Senior four, and Senior six. The journey has not been easy, but we serve a living God who promised not to leave nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5b). I, therefore, congratulate all our candidates at their respective levels for completing their academic journey as they look forward to joining another level. During our time, there was a lot of cheating. Learners used to never sleep because they were constantly receiving papers from various schools. Students would focus on reviewing what is coming from different schools rather than steadily revising books. The majority would end up reading under pressure, becoming exhausted throughout the night, getting on a roll, and being tired by the time they sat for exams. Most of the time, what they would be given was not set out in the papers. People would be panicking throughout the paper at this point. The end resul...

By Dickson Tumuramye It is never a garden of roses as we anticipate during courtship. There are certain characters that are not exposed during dating until you get into your marriage. That is when you start your classes of learning about your spouse and discovering new things you hadn't even thought about. Some spouses say that they're never sure if they married the right person. Instead of finding a virtuous wife or husband and obtaining favor before the Lord, they only see trouble in their marriage all the time. King Solomon wrote that “it is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop (on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather) than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman (Proverbs 21:9 – Amp). He adds that “it is better to live alone in the desert than with a contentious and ill-tempered wife (Proverbs 21:19). Such a wife is a constant drip. He focused only on women but we also know that there are husbands who are toxic, viol...