Teachers Should Desist from Bullying Our Children

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By Dickson Tumuramye

In the realm of education, where young minds are shaped and futures are influenced, the role of a teacher extends far beyond imparting knowledge. It encompasses nurturing, guiding, and inspiring students towards their full potential. However, on numerous occasions when I have been granted the opportunity to address students within educational institutions, a recurring theme has been the students' concerns regarding mistreatment or harassment by their teachers.

The impact of a teacher's words and actions on a child's emotional well-being cannot be overstated. While teachers need to maintain discipline and uphold standards, it must be done with sensitivity and respect. Instances, where teachers use disparaging remarks or belittle students, can have profound and lasting effects on their self-esteem and overall development.

Comments like How did you make it in this school or best stream/class? Why can't you drop out of school and you go to sell chapatis? Even if you study, you won't get far. You are a useless child. I wish you were not in this class/stream and many more comments.

Expressions that question a student's abilities, suggest limited future prospects, or undermine their achievements are not only hurtful but also detrimental. These words can cut deep, leaving scars that may not be visible but can significantly hinder a child's academic progress and emotional growth. The repercussions of emotional bullying in schools can lead to increased rates of depression and other mental health issues among students.

Teachers should learn that none of them knows the destiny of these children. We also bring our children to their schools because we know our children can manage. Teachers must create a safe and nurturing environment where students feel valued and supported. This entails exercising prudence in our interactions, being mindful of the power dynamics inherent in the teacher-student relationship, and refraining from any form of emotional bullying or verbal abuse. Every child entrusted to their care deserves to be treated with dignity and respect, regardless of their academic performance, background, or chronicle challenges like disability, or sicknesses.

Furthermore, it should be incumbent upon school administrators to take allegations of teacher misconduct seriously. Cases of reported mistreatment and harassment should be thoroughly investigated, ensuring the protection and well-being of the learners involved. While acknowledging that not all accusations may be founded, repeated reports against the same teacher warrant scrutiny and appropriate action. There is no fire without smoke.

Teachers should embody humility, compassion, and empathy, recognizing the profound influence they wield over young, impressionable minds. The words and actions of teachers can either uplift and inspire or diminish and demoralize their learners and to the worst can cause poor performance or dropping out of school.

Unlike physical bullying, the effects of emotional mistreatment may not be immediately apparent, but they inflict severe psychological distress that no one should endure. Please choose to nurture potential, foster confidence, and instill a love for learning in every student/pupil.

In familial settings, it is not uncommon for some parents to verbalize their thoughts without considering the emotional repercussions on their children. It is imperative to refrain from uttering curses inadvertently, as it is of no benefit. Using words that bolster your child's self-esteem is highly recommended.

Whether one is a teacher or a parent, it is crucial to exercise restraint in moments of anger. Demonstrating self-control, particularly in public settings, is essential. Teachers must bear in mind that the remarks they make, particularly towards underperforming students, can have lasting effects. Peers often echo these comments, perpetuating the cycle of negativity and mental health concerns.

A child subjected to ridicule in front of their peers will undoubtedly experience distress that can lead to depression and lasting anxiety. Even if a child possesses the potential for academic improvement, disparaging remarks and public humiliation can hinder progress in various aspects of their academic and social life. It is incumbent upon us to introspect and choose our words carefully to positively influence the development of our children.

In conclusion, the issue of emotional bullying by teachers is a serious concern that demands proactive measures and a collective commitment to uphold the highest standards of ethical conduct in education. By fostering a culture of respect and empathy within our schools, we not only safeguard the emotional well-being of our students but also cultivate an environment conducive to their academic and personal growth. Therefore, teachers should strive to empower, encourage, elevate and inspire a lifelong love of learning and leave a positive imprint on the lives of our students.

*The writer is the Executive director of Hope Regeneration Africa, parenting coach, marriage counselor,, and founder of Men of Purpose Mentorship Program.*

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