Understanding Your Child's Social Capital: A Pathway to Personal Growth

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By Dickson Tumuramye

In the current societal landscape characterized by the emergence of individualism, the communal way of life is gradually diminishing. In such a setting, a child who is raised in a community that lacks openness to social networks and connections may encounter challenges in developing a robust social capital.

Nevertheless, it is inherent in every individual to possess the ability to form friendships, whether through deliberate efforts or fortuitous encounters. Within the diverse fabric of our society, the friendships we cultivate are influenced by our immediate surroundings and shared interests. There exists a unique bond that draws individuals together, fostering the development of friendships. Consequently, it is a universal phenomenon for individuals to have companions, irrespective of their reputation or demeanor, as everyone tends to have a confidant or a follower.

Therefore, it is imperative to ponder upon the question: "Are you acquainted with your child's social capital?" Understanding and nurturing your child's social connections and relationships can significantly impact their personal growth and development within the broader social context.

It is imperative to identify the individuals within one's child's social circles who contribute to their social capital. It is recommended to acquaint oneself with the close friends of the child at school, university, church, or their place of residence. Understanding the nature of the friendships that influence the child is crucial. It is advisable to also familiarize oneself with the child's social networks, including the type of acquaintances they have and the content they share. Observing the interactions, responses, and strategies employed by these individuals in the face of competition, online activity, and criticism is essential.

Parents should take an active interest in the people with whom their child associates, irrespective of age, as these connections can offer valuable support in various aspects. It is important to ascertain the roles these individuals play in the child's life. For instance, in the event that the child has completed their education and is seeking employment opportunities, identifying contacts within their circles who may be able to assist, such as internship opportunities or apprenticeship placements, is highly beneficial.

Should one find oneself unfamiliar with the concept of constructing strategic social capital, now is the opportune moment to impart guidance and elucidate its significance.

It is imperative to educate one's offspring on the notion that their social capital hinges on trust, respect, and the ability to contribute positively to others. As Margaret J. Wheatley aptly articulated, "building social capital is akin to making deposits in a bank account where trust, cooperation, and support serve as the currency." Consequently, both parties must engage in mutual investment and contributions to each other's accounts.

 In the capacity of a responsible parent, it is advisable to allocate time to acquaint oneself with some of one's children's acquaintances, if deemed necessary. Understanding the nature of their interactions and the purposes thereof is crucial. Each friend or colleague of your child can offer valuable insights into their utility when the need arises. This reservoir of social capital has the potential to unlock avenues for advancement and prosperity, not only for the child but for the entire family. It fosters robust social networks, fosters collaborative opportunities, and facilitates personal growth and progress.

Should a child choose to engage in a particular school club, church fellowship, or any social group that demands their time or impacts their schedule, it is advisable to familiarize oneself with the specifics of the group. This includes obtaining information regarding the meeting schedule, identifying the contact person for any inquiries or concerns that may arise. In situations where one may harbor reservations about the group or certain individuals within the network, it is recommended to openly communicate with the child, offering guidance to assist them in making well-informed decisions.

Furthermore, parents are encouraged to introduce their children to their own social circles. As the adage suggests, "Your network is your net worth," it is important to motivate children to cultivate relationships within responsible social circles and networks that can positively influence their quality of life.

The writer is the executive director of Hope Regeneration Africa, parenting coach, marriage counsellor, and founder of the Men of Purpose Mentorship Program.

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