Positive Parenting

  By Dickson Tumuramye We have all come from somewhere and everyone longs to get somewhere and become somebody one day. But as you know life has a way of treating us well that some succeed and others give up. Again, the way we were raised or what we have experienced allows us to become self-driven and focused or we wait to be pushed to make our lives better and different. The same happens to our children. Some have to be pushed to do something. They treat each day as it comes. No plans for the future, no vision, and such people depend on instructions or act the way things are, with no personal drive to get somewhere. They are in their comfort zone. But some are uncomfortable with the status quo. They don’t need to be told what to do in life. They are focused and always looking for opportunities to do their best and get somewhere. Their eyes are fixed on the future and they keep moving forward. They are not limited by setbacks. They are go-getters. They feel they know wh...

By Dickson Tumuramye   Mentorship is a core skill that most parents don’t put a lot of effort to inculcate in their children. Most parents work hard to be role models to their children and impart good virtues in them. But the majority lack the skills to mentor their children to become their successors in their areas of interest. Moreover, the ones who seem to be mentored may not get it clear that their parents are intentionally holding their hands to make them better and take over from them at one point.   I know that all parents have heirs they leave behind when they pass on. But they may hardly mentor such heirs to know how they will manage their parents’ legacy. Even the children who grow up knowing that they are the next successors don’t do it so seriously ask their parents to intentionally mentor them and guide them in running family affairs when they are put in charge. It is upon children to copy and paste what they admire about their parents. They look at their parents ...

By Dickson Tumuramye Parents are at a crossroads with the vice of homosexuality becoming a daily talk locally and internationally. The LGBTIQ+ activists are not sleeping until their agenda is everywhere. Our schools and churches have been invaded by this dissolute act and there is a lot of anxiety among parents and children. The pressure to protect our children is tense. It is very stressful to know that someone is deliberately targeting your son or daughter for LBGTIQ+. The cartoons our children are watching a show that a relationship between same-sex partners is okay. Unfortunately, parents never have time to watch such cartoons with their children in their homes. Children also innocently watch all the time not knowing that there is a hidden agenda to lure them into this practice. The books in our libraries are now with such content.  These perpetrators are paying money to our vulnerable and desperate children. They look at this as the opportunity to earn a living and have a "...

By Dickson Tumuramye I would like to congratulate the senior six (S.6) leavers for passing their exams. S.6 vacations are always the longest. The anxiety and uncertainty of waiting for exams are no more. It is a fact that your child will not repeat high school if s/he passed. Maybe the child has been at home and not doing much. They are now free to take advantage of the remaining time before they begin further studies. The goal should be to make them more productive and fruitful. Finding a job or doing volunteer work this holiday is better than staying home and doing nothing. This will help them gain not only working experience but also provide them with the opportunity to develop key employability skills such as teamwork, office management, communication, customer care, problem-solving, negotiation, time management, and record keeping, which recruiters look for. It is also one of the greatest learning experiences. Your child can volunteer with organizations that accept them. Some orga...

By Dickson Tumuramye Parenting in the contemporary world is not easy these days. Our children are constantly exposed to new technology every day. Sometimes as parents, we are not at the same pace as they are. They are so much more tech-savvy than most parents. A one-year-old child also knows how to swipe a touch phone when he/she is not taught by anyone. You see how a toddler struggles to put the phone on his ears fantasizing to speak. Our children spend more time these days watching screens and using smartphones. The younger ones like cartoons, teens, and youth are more on social media, soaps, and movies. YouTube now makes it unnecessary for you to visit a  video library or to have a DVD player. Everything is available on your smartphone or laptop. Again there are many digital television stations that show a lot of movies, cartoons, and music in our homes. Children under your roof are not out of options as to which movie or film to watch. They can choose which kind of computer...